Can we really change?

How come we decide to change, make new resolutions, (especially at this time of the year), sometimes over and over again, year after year, with really nothing changing, especially over time? A great man once said that  ‘An agreement made to yourself is an agreement made with a fool’. By now many of us know how foolish we are when it could feel to promising ourselves that we will never do ‘that’ again.  And then the next week we are doing ‘that’, but now we say…. “no, this really is the last time”, only to do ‘that’ again the next day….. or some similar scenario to that.

Whether it’s our commitment to diet, or eating healthy, or exercising or not talking to our loved one’s in ‘THAT’ tone of voice, or not drinking or using drug, WHATEVER!  By now most of us know that we, ourselves, are not enough to really have that change occur. It is too easy for us to justify in our mind, in our ‘heads’ almost anything, and falter in our commitment.

What really makes the difference are the people around us. They can hold us to a commitment much more effectively, than we can alone. That is the foundation of La Residenza Villa, a luxury transitional sober living home in southern California. We are a family of residents that support each other in our recovery in a way we could never do alone.

Can we really change? Yes, with the love and contribution from the support group we build around us. Happy Holidays to all!